Gobsmacked…a good marriage book!

My wife has recently gotten me to read a book on marriage, as if we need it, as our marriage is perfect…ha, ha…hmmm….so anyway, I’ve started reading it and I am absolutely gobsmacked. The author is Mark Gungor and it is called, “Laughing your way to a better marriage.”

Now, I already knew our mindset is Greek thinking etc, as opposed to a Hebrew mindset, which actually, Aboriginal people in Australia have more so. (for example, a sacred sight is far more valuable to them than to the westerner who only thinks of money and is willing to rip up the land in mining to get it. To the Jews, the ground where the Temple was, is a sacred sight. If they had a Greek mindset, they wouldn’t care where the Temple was built, they would rebuild it elsewhere. In the same way, if Aboriginal people had a Greek mindset, they would be digging around for gold as well, forgetting about the sacredness of the land…of course, I’m not saying either that Aboriginals and Jews are the same either, they are unique, like everyone – but they do have similar mindsets, as opposed to the Greeks, where westeners get their mindset.)

With that little lesson in whatever out of the way, let’s talk about the dreaded marriage book my wife is forcing me to read…

So, where was I? Gobsmacked, that’s the word. I have discovered in the first chapter of Mark’s book that the very idea of a soulmate is absolute garbage and is the reason for many divorces. That’s no exaggeration! Again, I was gobsmacked ok, let me tell you what he said…

According to Greek mythology, man once had four arms, four legs and one head with two faces. They were basically two people in one. Seeing this and fearing that the authority of the gods would be compromised, the Greek god Zeus decided to split each person in half, condemning them to a life of searching for their other half – otherwise known as their “soul-mate.” This was meant to keep men too busy from meddling in the affairs of the gods, as they went on the search for perfect love.

This has been ingrained into our very culture, and especially in our churches. The world talks about finding your soul-mate, and the church talks about finding “the one” God has for you. Both are one and the same and is a load of garbage. God does not have the “right one,” for us…but there is a right kind of person for us. That is a person who is a “believer,” and it is up to us to marry the person who is right for our faith. But whoever we marry, just because we go through hard times, it doesn’t mean suddenly, we made a big mistake.

What got me is that the very idea of finding a soul-mate says that you’d be less happy if you’re not married to your soulmmate, or “the one,” and that if your marriage doesn’t work, then oh well, you obviously haven’t found him/her yet. It is a wordly license for separation and divorce.

So many marriages splitting up just because they’re not happy. Mark challenges the reader that we have mixed our faith with myth! We somehow feel our lives will be complete and fulfilled when we have both God AND “the one” God chooses for us. But this is so wrong. Only God can fulfill us! We live and move and have our being in Him, and Him alone. In His presence is fullness of joy…not anyone else! The very idea also, that God has a special someone just for you, is totally selfish. God did not create another human being just to satisfy you. I seen a quote on Twitter once, where it said, “lust’s desire is to get – but love’s desire is to give.” In a healthy marriage, both husband and wife are called to give to satisfy the other – not get to satisfy yourself. That’s why marriages suffer…and that’s probably why my wife wants me to read this book!!!

Some real food for thought I tell you. I have seen the DVD to Mark Gungor’s seminars before, but gee, reading the book is better I think…I highly recommend it!

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A new ministry…

Hey everyone! Hope you are all well…

For the last month, I have been doing a daily devotion, which you can check out at http://rabattyedaily.wordpress.com and I’m amazed at the responses I’ve received. I’ve discovered a new ministry to the nations in fact.

When I go to the stats section, it tells me how many people have viewed the blog and from where. So far, views from Australia, America, UK, Brazil, Colombia, Bulgaria, Canada, South Africa, Japan and the Netherlands!

What encourages me is that I may never go to these countries in person, but through a simple devotion, it’s like I am right there in their rooms, giving them God’s Word in all these countries! What’s even better, God IS there with them, and I pray that He is speaking to each one who reads and shows Himself to them in some way. I imagine God speaking to them, I see it and pray for it! I don’t know their circumstances, but God does.

Maybe some of them don’t have access to a Bible – sure, most in countries like Australia, the U.S. and the UK would – but what about in Bulgaria, or even Japan. I once was going to go to Japan for a year, but decided instead to go to the outback of Australia. Now, through this devotion, I am going inside someones room in Japan. I heard stories about young people there, who would isolate themselves in their rooms to the extent that their parents would leave their dinner outside their rooms for them to pick it up later. And if the meal was still there later, it meant they died, or committed suicide.

WHAT IF I was talking to one of those lost souls, who through a daily devotion, read God’s Word and received hope in their lives again? I just started thinking of this concept when I saw that someone in Japan read the blog. We’ll never truly know what impact we’ve made in the world until we get to heaven. Just what if…

I am also building new friendships with other bloggers who just want to also share God’s Word like me, we encourage eachother through our comments, challenge eachother. It’s great. I’d recommend wordpress blogging for sharing God’s Word anyday.

Sure, nothing beats having fellowship in person, but since I have a nighshift job like this, I’m in a good position to blog, and using work’s internet…which I’m allowed to do, so why not use it for Kingdom purposes – and touch the world for Jesus at the same time!

If you have time for blogging, why not give it a go? You never know who’s reading it…

Enjoy your day people, and God bless!

Rob 🙂